Do you have an inner critic that you’re tired of listening to?
If someone else spoke to you the way you speak to you, would you put up with it?
Here’s “Thing 1” …
While you’re berating yourself …
- others have full confidence in you
- you provide encouragement, support and confidence to others (who also have an inner critic!)
- when others fail or falter, what do you do? You’re quick to pick them up, I bet!
Maybe some self care is in order.
Here’s what you can do:
- Pause/breathe – think about what you’re about to say to yourself
- Respond – don’t react
- Define what you do want – what does ‘good’ look like?
- Next time … what could you do next time this happens. Write it down if you can, it helps with imprinting and reinforcement
- Affirm what you’re wanting to achieve – write an effective affirmation (more on this coming soon)
Here’s “Thing 2” …
- Think about what you were berating yourself about 12 months ago.
- Can’t do it, can you?
- This too will pass, grab any learning you can, let it go and move to the ‘good’
Want an example?
Meeting 1: “God, that was a train wreck! I am hopeless at running meetings. I can’t control the participants. I can’t stick to the agenda. What an idiot!”
Meeting 2: [Pause/breathe] “Well that wasn’t ideal. Next time … I’ll be clear about the agenda and keep participants on track. I’ll allocate some time to plan better. Will see Jane about how she does it, she runs her meetings well.”
Affirmation: “I plan my meetings well and maintain control to achieve the outcomes we need.”