So there’s this thing called self efficacy.
“Self-efficacy refers to an individual’s belief in his or her capacity to execute behaviors necessary to produce specific performance attainments (Bandura, 1977, 1986, 1997). Self-efficacy reflects confidence in the ability to exert control over one’s own motivation, behavior, and social environment.” (Source)
There is another concept called self talk.
“Self-talk is our internal dialogue. It’s influenced by our subconscious mind, and it reveals our thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas.” (Source)
Most people talk negatively to themselves most of the time. If it’s not negative, then it is neutral, with little to no power to progress.
In order to make progress
We need to improve our self efficacy, the ability to cause something to happen. Otherwise we will remain waiting for something to happen. Waiting on others, or waiting for a windfall.
To improve our self efficacy we can look to improve our self talk. Note from the source above, it can be influenced by some deeply held beliefs we may need to challenge or at least question.
What do you hold to that may not be true?
We could be talking ourselves out of the very things we want to happen in our lives, career, relationships etc.
As Henry Ford said,
If you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right!
What do you want to have happen?
How are you talking to yourself about it?